Giving Life to the Failing Love
Navigating modern society towards successful and sustainable relationships
While travelling recently, I overheard a conversation between two girls. One of them was bored with her current relationship and that she plans to end it. It took me a while to realize that she spoke of love. In recent days, I also hear the terms ‘situationship’ and ‘delusionship’ a lot. What do they mean? Are they a different form of a relationship? I find it difficult to relate them to the concept of love I knew.
I also hear about a lot of breakups and divorces happening. Many might have gone through it at some point. But why is it becoming a trend nowadays? Is it that hard for people to love each other? Or is it that people have failed to understand what love is?
I’m just a young adult exploring, experiencing, and learning things. And even to me, the kind of love people share these days seems wrong. Maybe I don’t know much about them, but I believe, I know how to do it right.
Understanding Love
Ah, okay, wait. What is love? Is there a single perfect definition for it? Hmmm. Nope. In reality, there isn’t anything like that. Love is different for people experiencing it. Some might have experienced ‘Love at first sight,’ for some ‘Friendship becomes Love’, and even a few find ‘Love after Marriage’. The way they find their love and the way they lead their life may be different, but the relationship they share in common is ‘Love’.
Love can only be vaguely defined. The real meaning of love can be known only through feeling it rather than understanding it by definition. This feeling has no bounds like age, language, religion, country, color, etc. Love is what it is!
The Failing Love
Why does love fail to keep people together? People meet each other, start liking, develop infatuation, optionally go on dates, and then blindly call it love. Some people don’t even make it to that stage. Their relationship stagnates into a ‘situationship’. I don’t want to discard it as a waste of time. It’s precious for some. However, don’t get stuck in this dilemma.
Love is partly intuition, and the remaining is your decision.
There is one more thing popular with the digital generation — ‘delulu’. Oh! People, stop being delulu, that’s not the solulu, and it won’t become trululu. Delusions lead you nowhere. Being delusional is just a time pass.
Fantasies are a curse to a happy relationship.
Situationships and delusionships are not modern love. It’s a curse. They spoil the whole relationship experience, leaving a bad impression on love. People fall into these modern-day traps and are blinded. In reality, love doesn’t fail people. Rather, it’s the people who fail to understand love.
Reviving Love
Falling in love entails a willingness to share valuable aspects of life such as time, physical and mental energy, finances, and existing relationships. This process may present challenges initially due to the diversity in personalities and characteristics. Understanding the nuances of blending diverse traits paves the way for forming unbreakable bonds.
The strength of relationships hinges on deliberate and thoughtful efforts. Relationships without robust bonds tend to diminish over time. Hence, cherishing connections, expressing gratitude, and investing efforts to maintain joy are foundational to reinforcing these bonds.
In relationships, decision-making plays a critical role in sustaining relationships. Ill-considered decisions have the potential to break bonds, a scenario regretted by many. Therefore, emphasizing careful decision-making is imperative. Investing time in understanding and empathizing is crucial for sound decision-making, which in turn, develops trust and mitigates misunderstandings — common reasons for relationship breakdowns. Patience averts making unfavourable decisions.
Ultimately, the commitment to a relationship steers its course. Anything less than whole-hearted commitment places previous efforts in vain. In such instances, opting to disengage is more favourable than persisting with half-hearted dedication.
